As it turns out, my brothers (cousin) are getting married. Apparently, I should be worried and ashamed, if people are to be taken seriously 😉
Yes, I think the boy getting married today has done well. But that is because it is a love marriage- and I have a solemn respect for anyone who makes a choice on his/her own. Whether they handle it well, or not, is none of my business ( I analyse and make fun of it anyway. all for fun )
But that ideological angle apart, I think people don’t realise what all is possible by prolonging this unmarried stretch like a boss! The other day, I realised my biggest worries are: communalisation and politicisation of Indian society, declining civic sense in Delhi, finding a new gym and learning Tamil. That is all 🙂 The point is, the profile of concerns in life shifts when you get married.
I would hate that.
To quote HRB,
मैं कभी, कहीं पर सफ़र ख़्ात्म कर देने को
तैयार सदा था, इसमें भी थी क्या मुश्किल;
चलना ही जिका काम रहा हो दुनिया में
हर एक क़दम के ऊपर है उसकी मंज़िल;
- जो कल मर काम उठाता है वह पछताए,
- कल अगर नहीं फिर उसकी क़िस्मत में आता;
- मैंने कल पर कब आज भला बलिदान किया।
- मैंने जीवन देखा, जीवन का गान किया।
But what about love?
The whole things only get better theory I so ardently believe in, still holds for me. I have been lucky.